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Five ways to combat first-year loneliness

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1. Use your voice – literally!

The first week at university is an extrovert’s dream. It’s the best opportunity you’ll get to strike up a conversation with anyone and everyone as you’re introduced to your new peers. Don’t be shy to have your say: tell your flatmates about your favourite films, share your favourite songs with the people on your course. I unknowingly met my second-year housemate at a flat party; we bonded over a shared love of music. Sometimes it helps to be a chatterbox, even if you don’t consider yourself a loud person by nature.

2. Get out of your comfort zone

The university social scene can be exhausting at the best of times; know your limits and respect your boundaries. It’s important to recognise that it’s okay to say no to things that make you feel uncomfortable. That being said, Freshers Week is a perfect opportunity to gently push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Start with trying something new, such as joining a society and exploring the exciting opportunities Manchester has to offer. You’ll be amazed how a small step can turn into a giant leap in just a matter of days.

3. Stay in touch with life back home

One of the hardest parts of moving to university can be leaving everything behind in your hometown. Be it your parents, your pets or your childhood best friends, losing everything at once is a daunting experience. Remind yourself that none of what you had is gone forever — Christmas break is only a few months away. Don’t be afraid to phone home once in a while. Staying in touch will help you and your loved ones back home overcome loneliness. You’ll never be too old for some comfort from the people you trust the most.

4. Find a new hobby (and stick at it)

As jam-packed as your first few weeks at university may be, you’ll still find yourself with an overwhelming amount of time to yourself. Use your downtime wisely and pick up a new hobby to fill the hours. You could try teaching yourself something new, such as a musical instrument, or use the opportunity to socialise with your peers and find something that everybody can enjoy together. Once you’ve found an activity, exercise or hobby that works for you, try making it a part of your routine; stick at it until you’ve got something to look forward to, even when there are no plans to go out.

5. Keep attending lectures

University life isn’t always about relentless partying; it’s equally important to be mindful of your studies. Regularly attending your lectures will help you to establish healthy relationships with your lecturers and course mates. Leaving the flat for an hour a day just to hear the sound of somebody else’s voice can make all the difference when you’re feeling isolated. Don’t make a habit of skipping lectures to sit alone in your flat. Take advantage of the course you’ve chosen and immerse yourself in your next phase of studies.

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